Jill Came to Me Frustruated
She’s smart. Good job. Three grown sons. She knew what to eat – that wasn’t the problem. The problem was she’d come home from work and eat too much. Every morning she’d wake up with good intentions. Sometimes she’d even pack gym clothes. But by the time she got home? Straight to the refrigerator.
Sound familiar?
This is what I call the disconnect: you know what you want to do in the morning, but by evening, you just don’t feel like it anymore.
What we discovered in hypnosis:
Jill had a pattern running beneath the surface. One of her sons was struggling – depressed, stressed. And she felt like she couldn’t be happy unless everyone else in her life was happy first.
She was starting to feel resentful. She didn’t want to feel resentful, but she did – because she wanted to feel better, but couldn’t give herself permission.
We worked on mindful eating. But more importantly, we worked on the belief that taking care of herself meant neglecting others.
What happened next:
Jill came back having lost four pounds. But that wasn’t the best part.
She told me: “I saw my son, and he said, ‘Mom, what’s going on with you? You seem so happy.'”
Her happiness was having a positive impact on everyone around her. Her relationship with her husband improved – they started having date nights, acting like kids again. When she started getting happier, everyone in her life benefited.
Her son felt less stressed because she felt better.
The mechanism:
When you believe you can’t be happy until everyone else is okay, food becomes the place you try to meet that need. You’re eating too much not because you don’t know better, but because you’re trying to feel better while denying yourself permission to actually prioritize yourself.
Once that belief updates – once you recognize that your happiness actually helps the people you love -everything shifts. You’re not fighting yourself anymore. You’re eating when you’re hungry. Stopping when you’re full. Taking care of yourself becomes natural, not selfish.
What this means for you:
If you’ve ever thought, “I’ll take care of myself when everyone else is okay,” that’s the pattern we need to update. Not through willpower. Through understanding what your relationship with food is really about.
Your kids want to see you happy. Your spouse wants to see you happy. When you prioritize your own well-being, you’re not being selfish, you’re showing them what self-care looks like.
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