How To Solve The Biggest Problems With Hypnosis

The problems that keep you stuck aren’t solved by thinking harder. They’re solved by working with your subconscious mind.

Some problems don’t respond to logic, willpower, or good advice. You know what you “should” do, but you can’t seem to do it. You’ve tried talking it through, reading books, giving yourself pep talks – and still, you’re stuck.

These aren’t problems of knowledge. They’re problems of wiring – the patterns running beneath conscious awareness. And that’s exactly where hypnosis works.

Here are some of the biggest life problems people bring to hypnosis sessions,  and how this work helps when nothing else has.

Problem: I Can’t Get Over a Relationship

You know it’s over. You know you should move on. But your heart hasn’t gotten the message.

You keep replaying conversations. Checking their social media. Wondering what they’re doing, who they’re with, whether they think about you. Your logical mind knows it’s done, but your emotions haven’t caught up.

Why this is hard to solve on your own:

Heartbreak lives in the subconscious. It’s not a logical problem you can think your way out of. Telling yourself to “just move on” doesn’t work because the emotional attachment operates below conscious awareness.

How hypnosis approaches it differently:

Hypnosis works directly with the part of your mind holding onto the relationship. We help your subconscious update its understanding – recognize that the relationship is truly over, release the emotional attachment, and shift your identity from “we” back to “I.”

This isn’t about forcing yourself to forget them or pretending you never cared. It’s about helping your whole system – not just your logical mind – accept what’s already true.

What resolution looks like:

You think about them less. When you do, it doesn’t hurt the same way. You stop checking their profiles. You feel more like yourself again – not the person you were before them, but a new version who’s integrated that experience and moved forward.

Problem: I Can’t Move On From Someone’s Death

Grief isn’t something you “get over.” But it shouldn’t keep you from living your own life.

You feel guilty laughing. You wonder if moving forward means forgetting them. The pain feels like the only connection you have left, so letting go of the pain feels like letting go of them.

Why this is hard to solve on your own:

Grief is complicated by guilt, unfinished business, and the fear that healing means betrayal. Your conscious mind knows they’d want you to be happy – but your heart feels like joy would dishonor their memory.

How hypnosis approaches it differently:

Hypnosis helps you separate grief from guilt. We work with the part of you that’s afraid moving forward means abandoning them. We help you create a new relationship with their memory – one where you can honor them AND live fully.

Sometimes we do what’s called “unfinished business work” – saying things you never got to say, receiving what you needed to hear, finding peace with what was left incomplete.

What resolution looks like:

You can think about them without being overwhelmed. You carry their memory with love instead of pain. You give yourself permission to laugh, to be happy, to continue living – knowing that’s not betrayal, it’s honoring the love you shared.

Learn more about healing from past experiences →

Problem: I Feel Lost Without Direction

You don’t know what you want, where you’re going, or what you’re supposed to be doing with your life.

Everyone else seems to have it figured out. You feel like you’re just going through the motions – working, paying bills, getting by – but there’s no deeper purpose. No direction. No sense of where you’re headed or why.

Why this is hard to solve on your own:

You can’t think your way into knowing your purpose. Reading more books, taking more quizzes, or forcing yourself to “find your passion” doesn’t work when you’re disconnected from your inner knowing.

How hypnosis approaches it differently:

Hypnosis quiets the noise of “should” and external expectations. We help you access the part of you that already knows what matters – beneath the fear, the conditioning, the pressure to have it all figured out.

Sometimes the answer isn’t a specific career or goal. Sometimes it’s a quality you want to bring to your life, a way you want to feel, a contribution you want to make. Hypnosis helps you find your answer, not the one you think you’re supposed to have.

What resolution looks like:

You feel more grounded. Less anxious about not having everything mapped out. You start making choices that feel right rather than trying to force yourself down a path that doesn’t fit. Clarity emerges naturally – not as a sudden lightning bolt, but as a gradual sense of “yes, this.”

Problem: My Life Has No Meaning

You’re functioning, but not thriving. Going through the motions, but not feeling anything.

Work. Bills. Routine. Repeat. You know you “should” be grateful – you have a job, a home, people who care about you. But it all feels hollow. Empty. Like you’re sleepwalking through your own life.

Why this is hard to solve on your own:

Meaning isn’t something you create through force of will. You can’t logic yourself into feeling purposeful. And when depression or disconnection has settled in, even activities that used to bring joy feel flat.

How hypnosis approaches it differently:

Hypnosis helps you reconnect with what matters to you – the values, experiences, and connections that make life feel worth living. We work with the part of you that’s shut down or numbed out, gently inviting it back to engagement.

Sometimes we explore what happened that caused you to disconnect. Sometimes we help you imagine what a meaningful life could look like for you – not based on external achievements, but based on how you want to feel and who you want to be.

What resolution looks like:

Color returns to your life. Not all at once, but gradually. You start noticing moments that matter. You feel more present. Things that used to feel meaningless start to carry weight again – not because life changed, but because you’re showing up differently.

Problem: I Can’t Let Go of Anger

You know holding onto anger hurts you more than them. But you can’t seem to release it.

Maybe someone betrayed you. Maybe they hurt someone you love. Maybe they got away with something that wasn’t fair. Your mind loops through what happened, what they did, what should have been different.

You’re tired of being angry. But forgiveness feels like letting them off the hook.

Why this is hard to solve on your own:

Anger is protective. It keeps you from feeling the hurt underneath. Your subconscious believes that staying angry keeps you safe, keeps you from being hurt again, or maintains some kind of justice.

Telling yourself to “just let it go” doesn’t work because the anger is serving a purpose beneath conscious awareness.

How hypnosis approaches it differently:

Hypnosis helps you understand what the anger is protecting. We work with that protective part, acknowledging its good intentions, and help it find better ways to keep you safe.

We also separate forgiveness from reconciliation. You can release the weight you’re carrying without condoning what they did or letting them back into your life. The anger doesn’t serve you anymore – and hypnosis helps you put it down.

What resolution looks like:

You think about the situation less. When you do, it doesn’t ignite the same rage. You feel lighter, freer. Not because you’ve forgotten what happened, but because you’ve stopped carrying it with you everywhere you go.

Problem: I Don’t Know Why I React With Anxiety

Something triggers you – a comment, a situation, a place – and suddenly you’re flooded with anxiety. But you don’t know why.

Logically, it doesn’t make sense. You know the situation isn’t actually dangerous. But your body reacts like it is – heart racing, palms sweating, mind spinning. You feel out of control, and you can’t figure out what’s causing it.

Why this is hard to solve on your own:

Anxiety responses are often connected to past experiences you’ve consciously forgotten – or experiences your conscious mind never fully processed. Your body remembers even when your mind doesn’t.

Trying to talk yourself out of anxiety doesn’t work because the reaction is happening at a subconscious level, faster than conscious thought.

How hypnosis approaches it differently:

Hypnosis helps you trace the anxiety back to its source. We use techniques like affect bridge or age regression to understand when your nervous system first learned to respond this way – and why.

Once we find the root cause, we can help your subconscious update its response. Your body learns that what was dangerous then isn’t dangerous now. The automatic anxiety response begins to shift.

What resolution looks like:

The triggers don’t hit as hard. You notice them, but they don’t overwhelm you. You understand where the reaction came from, which makes it feel less mysterious and frightening. Your nervous system begins to trust that you’re safe – and the anxiety gradually quiets.

Learn more about anxiety relief with hypnosis →

The Pattern: Why These Problems Resist Logic

All of these problems share something in common: they’re not solved by thinking harder.

You already know what you “should” do. You’ve heard the advice. You’ve tried willing yourself to change. And still, you’re stuck.

That’s because these problems live in the subconscious – the part of your mind that runs automatically, beneath conscious awareness. And that’s exactly where hypnosis works.

Hypnosis doesn’t bypass your conscious mind or override your will. It simply creates a conversation between your conscious intentions and your subconscious patterns – helping them align instead of fighting each other.

What Problem Are You Ready to Solve?

Let’s talk about what’s keeping you stuck.

Whether it’s one of these problems or something entirely different, hypnosis might be able to help. The best way to find out is to have a conversation about your specific situation.

Schedule your initial consultation – we’ll spend about an hour discussing your goals, your history, and whether hypnosis is the right approach for you. The consultation is $95, and if you decide to move forward with a program, that fee is credited toward your package.

Or call me directly at 360-392-8723. I’m happy to answer your questions.

You’ve tried solving these problems with logic and willpower. Maybe it’s time to try something different.